How to be a nice person and also enjoy it

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What happens when you are a nice person??
You are
1.     Doubted
2.     Accepted with skepticism
3.     Accepted with thanks
4.     Trusted
5.     Reciprocated
6.     Expectation enhanced
7.     Used
8.     Thrust unwanted jobs
9.     Taken for granted
10.  Ignored
How do we respond to each of the above treatment to ensure that nice people remain nice and happy.
When you are
 Doubted -- accept it as it is natural especially if the other person is    not known to be nice.

Accepted with skepticism -- wait and watch. Acceptance is on the way.
Accepted with thanks -- begin a relationship as the signals augur good relationship.
Trusted -- enhance the trust
Reciprocated -- build the relationship. That will make ideal Nice and Nice combo.


Expectation enhanced -- beware and restrict relationship.

Used -- fluctuate relationship levels. If still attempt to use continue make them realize "you use me you lose me"
Thrust unwanted jobs -- Sting with words. Ignore the job. A sting from a nice soul is all the more painful. Restore the relation if still welcomed.
Taken for granted --- reciprocate and give a toast of their own medicine.
 Ignored --- you are not the loser.

The first five categories of reaction deserve the company of nice people and not the next five. Search sieve and include the first lot and avoid the second lot. It will be a pleasure to be a nice person. But being a nice person to a stranger is at your own risk.

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